Lonely… I Am So Lonely… I Have Nobody to Call My Own…
Lonely… I am so lonely, I have nobody to call my own…
Yeah baby… that is one of Akon’s song… really like the song. But I don’t like the feeling. Especially in Sunday night when you have this pop-up annoying reminder in your head that you have to go work tomorrow! Waaaaa!!!!
Somehow I feel pathetic and weak when I realize that I feel lonely. But what the heck, everyone must have this feeling, even if you are the most independent and self-assured person in this world.
So… I was trying to write something and thinking to write about feeling lonely. When I was browsing to find some materials, I find a good write up in this link:
http://www.personal-development.com/chuck/loneliness2.htm
Just want to summarize and share what I have read. Hope it can be useful for anyone who care to read this blog… hehehe….
Loneliness is (obviously) feeling lonely. It is just another feelings that human feels. However, loneliness is not that “innocent as it looks”, it can lead into anxiety or depression. One can be crippled by self-pity and helplessness. As soon as the stress that caused by loneliness take over yourself, it can weak immune system and trigger so many illness.
The good news is we can do something about it. As life is always about taking options, we can choose whether to drawn into the feeling or really do something about it. We need to remember that we are not our feelings, feelings is just a part of us.
The author, Gallozzi, gives some suggestions how to deal with loneliness. First is to give away what you wish to receive. If you need a friend, then be a friend. If you need support then give support. By healing other’s loneliness, we might cure our own. By giving support to others, we might get the supports in return. However, it is important to be sincere, upright, with whole-hearted. If we do something just to expect we receive something else in return, then the result will only backfire. People receive the most when they give the most. It is better to give of yourself, but keep the expectation lower (I want to write, “do not expect anything” but I guess most of the time we can not be “expectation-free” ;p).
Think of others rather than be full of yourself. Being needy will not help as it will just drain your friends’ energy and drive them away. It is wise not to dump your problems and overwhelm others. Learn to listen and comfort other, then you will not just swimming in your ocean of loneliness (I am trying hard to carve those sentences inside my head… and my heart — sometimes your head does understand, but your heart just roaring like untamed lion, eating your head alive… hehehe..).
In this website, it is also mentioned that it is good to be alone. You need to spend sometimes with yourself, to know yourself better. It is an opportunity for reflection, self-discovery, and growth. Yet, do not deprive others because of this.
Besides that website, I also find that it is important to have a hobby. Not all the times we can spend with our family and friends. They have their own life too. And to have a hobby will be very helpful and useful.
Well, nothing is really going to change in one night. After reading the article, I really hope I could make use of it. I believe so many people are feeling lonely by now. I hope we can find our own way and overcome that.
God bless you all J
